Teach Mahassanul akhlaaq- beautiful conduct- like hayaa, sabr, forgiveness, courage, shukr, cleanliness etc.

It is the duty of every parent to shield the child from the influence of peers that are evil- do whatever is feasible, with resolve, not to allow the child to be in the company of peers that will influence them badly (in terms of dress, speech, attitude towards parents, etc)

Do not allow the child to be used to excessive comfort and grant them everything they want.  If they become accustomed to such luxuries, these things will attract them to the life of this world.

Do not allow the child to be accustomed to that which leads to zeenah. Those things should not be made beloved to the child, indeed the consequence would be that when the child grows older they will waste valuable time seeking comfort in that, in their physical appearance, and this will absorb their minds and hearts instead of more important things.

Give the child for feeding to one who is moral and whose income is halaal.  Do not give the child to be educated except by those who are Allah fearing and deeply conscious of Him.

If the child eats a lot, the child should therefore be taught the matters of eating (cleaning your hands before you eat, saying bismillah, eating from that which is closest to you, eating sitting down etc).  Accustom the child to sometimes eat bread alone- this keeps them conscious of those who have less than them.  Eating excessively should be described as something ugly, and made analogous to the behavior of animals.

In terms of clothing teach the child to like clothing that is white and clean, not dirty clothes or clothes that are excessively colorful.

Forbid the child from being in the company of those who are used to too much comfort.

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